| incense | -- 04-28-2005 @ 10:38 PM |
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hi! it's been so long since my last login. i've been thinking a lot lately.. please help me finding an answer to this question? is it ok if a believer goes steady with an unbeliever? thanks. be a vessel of change. -incense
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| mueni | -- 05-08-2005 @ 1:55 PM |
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ill say no...apart from the fact that the bible says in 1 cor not to yoke with unbelievers you will find in time that its not worth it....yes he may be all that and a bag of chips but he misses the vital ingredient..a relationship with God and believe u me...all the rest is nothing if he is not saved first.. theres just something about being on the same page that makes it really work..and if he knows the love of God then he will know how to love you more...so hang in there pray that God sends u someone who bilives in the things u do angel
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| cindydg | -- 05-25-2005 @ 12:04 PM |
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Dating is 'preparation for marriage'; don't EVER date someone you would never marry! I did that a few times, and regretted it. And I can tell you of scads of grownups who did just that, married them, had kids and now are divorced..what a shipwreck! God has reasons for telling us not to be yoked together w/ unbelievers. Marriage - and the relationship(s) that lead up to it - are to always reflect and honor God. How can an unequally yoked one possibly do that, and how could it ever be good for us? In Pursuit, Cindy
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| Gal56b1 | -- 06-15-2005 @ 1:25 AM |
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Hello Beloved, I have preached to countless young adults and teenagers on this subject... So I'll put it in a tangible way...what everyone before has said is true....but let me tell you why... We read in Genesis that out of a mans rib was created woman.. The Word of God tells us that When we engage in intimacy( Sex) two become one flesh... So ... fact if you are a woman you are a rib.. if a man you are a body... there is only one rib for one body... if you have ever been in a relationship and you feel like something is amuck.. baby that is because the rib don't fit.. and when a rib don't fit it can end up puncturing a lung! .. Which brings me to point B)99.9% of the time the unsaved person drags down the saved one.. why? Because our fleshly bodies crave sin.. sin is fun.. we end up corrupted!Like trying to mix oil and water .. no matter how much you shake, shake ,shake,, it ain't going to mix! ...point c) Here is the gruesome truth.. when two become one... you inherit every bondage... every baggage.. every weight... every sin... as the one you bond yourself with...you just meshed your spiritual and physical self with the other persons...spiritual and physical self... this is ugly... if you have been with more than one partner.. you can imagine how that garbage adds up.. that is why soo many marraiges fail and they say "I don't feel complete" well truth is you aren't.. Not until you cut off all that garbage that you bound yourself with and make a clean start with the one God has for you.. your marraige partner. God isn't trying to be a downer.. He doesn't want you settling for second best.. and why should you? there is a perfect person.. designed for you.. someone who will complete you.. balance you out.. and be whole apart of the ministry God has for you... and when you join.. purely in Holy Matrimony.. with no garbage.. Wow! It is awesome! Beyond words..Until the Lord sends that person to you... Seek Ye first the Kingdom of God! What an honor and a priveledge it is to be single for God.. no ties.. your all His.. Wow!! free to go wherever...Wow! You should court only.. that is devolping a friendship.. examining the individual...to see if He/she is marraige material... meeting should be public as to not get your self in a position where you could sin... and both parties should be head over heals in love with God! So that you can encourage one another in truth and in the word.. to live a life of integrity... If you have any other questons just ask... It is the Holy Spirit whon lives in every saved person that leads and guides into all truth..and though the truth may sting...it truly sets you free! Your Fellow Servant in Christ, Glory
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| breezee | -- 06-15-2005 @ 9:24 AM |
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Oh Glory! I can vouch personally that there is much pain and heartache when you allow yourself to be yoked with an unbeliever. Sometimes we try to tell ourselves we can lead that person to the Lord, and that may be true, but what will you have to go through to get to that point? The devil will fight you tooth and nail. He will stop at nothing to keep you distracted from your goal. I am married to my first love. Early in his life his parents were Christians, but there came a point when his mother converted to Jehovah's Witness and divorce followed. My husband will go to church with me sometimes, but I fear he does not care about growing in the Lord. He has given his life to Jesus, but still talks ugly. It is a source of extreme frustration for me. He doesn't think it's a big deal, but my children hear that ugly language...not to mention I have to hear it too!!! There is a constant struggle in my household. I love my husband...I will stick it out. God stands with me, but it is not easy. There is a constant sense of complacency. I fight not to be lazy in my faith, but I continuously find myself vacillating in my flesh and my church attendance. No, church attendance doesn't save us, but it is so important to have continued fellowship with the saints. I encourage you to take the advice of all of us. Wait for the Lord to bring the right man into your life. Maybe be friends and invite him to church. See if he gets saved before you contemplate any intimacy. In Him, Bree
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| cindydg | -- 06-16-2005 @ 12:59 PM |
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"Incense", I noticed there haven't been any additions to this discussion. We're all hoping and praying you made the right decision w/ this fellow. Remember, we're grown up for MANY more years than we're young; and what we do in youth lays a foundation for the rest of our life. Don't risk a Godly, happy future for a few weeks or months of "fun" w/ the wrong guy. God has such an exciting life ahead for you...stay close to Him and He'll lead you into it, one step and one relationship at a time. In Pursuit, Cindy
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| Gal56b1 | -- 06-17-2005 @ 12:38 AM |
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Well breezee, In many years of service...especially counseling married couples...I have this to be true...the only one who can say...is your husband....we can recite a prayer...without the sincerity of heart..and we will not be saved...more often it is with men than women but I have seen both sides...where one side is"guilted" or pressured to "say the prayer" but if they did not choose it for them selves...well they aren't saved..which explains all the garbage talk...lack of wanting to fellowship..get into His words...etc...You'll be suprised at exactly HOw often this happens. Ministers..yes pastors...have realized an aweful truth ..that they infact weren't saved..after being questioned...That is devasting! A person needs to received the gift that Christ so willingly gives..generously...for them selves...an evangelist praying for you doesn't do it..being raised in the church doesn't do it.it has to come straight from your heart out your mouth... If someone is truly saved there is a change...not because someone is hounding them... but because they desire HIM. Once saved..ALL your sins are forgiven past present and future..!some struggle with all kinds of things..why like I said before our bodies desire sin..Sin is fun...God sees all sin the exact same..there are no varying degrees..so an axe murders sin is the same as the swearing ..or the judgeing or the "white lie" or whatever else...This is why we need a saviour for there is none righteous no not one! " Lord God I honor you as governing authority of all...I pray Lord that you will be huge in thier lives.. I pray that you would open their eyes that they may see remove the blindfolds..open their ears that they may hear...remove the earmuffs.. and help their hearts to be fertile for your glory.Holy spirit be ever present in thier lives and I thankyou in advanced for renewed relationship in you and a fire and a hunger and thirst for you that cannot be quenched..I pray Lord God that you will not let hers or her husbands feet slip, slide, stumble, fall, or be moved in any direction except towrds you.. in the name of Jesus.. Amen" Your Fellow Servant in Christ, Glory
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| breezee | -- 06-17-2005 @ 11:02 AM |
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Glory, Thank you for your prayer. I know what you say is true. He and God are the only ones who know for sure. I will continue to encourage and not gripe. Father God, I thank you for your forgiveness past, present and future. I thank you for being my Father, my Savior, my guide. Thank you for never giving up on me. In Jesus precious name. In Him, Bree
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